First, It’s Not About Luck 7 Senior Dating Tips
If you’re still throwing darts at online dating profiles, consulting your horoscope, thinking that finding a partner is just a numbers game, or hoping a friend will fix you up, then you’ve already missed the senior dating boat. If you wait for your online dating site inbox to fill up instead of being proactive, if you only answer emails from men or women who fit a narrow type, or you haven’t refreshed your photos or updated your profile in six months, you need to know that the effort required to meet a life partner begins when you sign up and ends only when you’re in love.
No Whining
While online dating for seniors isn’t a contact sport, it sometimes leaves seniors feeling bruised on the inside. Face it, you’re competing with every senior dater in your community, and you need to act accordingly. Complaining there aren’t enough good men, that the available men are abysmal, that women only want to date a wallet, and a zillion other nonsensical judgments will only ensure you quit online dating frustrated and single. You’ll need equal amounts of stamina, determination, and intelligence.
It Works
There aren’t any guarantees in life, and online dating is no exception.
But what I know with certainty is that online dating works so well that couples that meet online have statistically better odds of a successful marriage. I dated online for several years before meeting my partner who I never would have met otherwise, although admittedly it took a slew of coffee dates.
Attitude
Staying positive, choosing potential dates thoughtfully, and taking a break when you’re feeling emotionally fatigued are all worth remembering.
And there’s something else to keep in mind, and that is the person you’re anxious to meet is out there and he or she is just as anxious to meet you. Online dating is all about making your worlds collide, and that can only be accomplished by being proactive, mentally strong, and optimistic.
Shine
Your online profile is more than just a mandatory space you’re obligated to fill in with your story. It’s an opportunity to stand out. If you give online daters more than a few tidbits to decide whether you’re worth dating, your chances of meeting someone special increase exponentially. And if all your photos aren’t smiling shots, have a friend take new ones.
Do Your Homework
Dating websites know that people will join and quit regularly, and while they do put some effort into making the experience enjoyable, the burden is on members to make it successful. Think of a dating website as a library, but filled with people instead of books. You wouldn’t go to a library and ask the librarian to read the books to you, and you shouldn’t expect a dating site to do much beyond offer good choices.
Expand Your Horizons
I went on dozens of coffee dates before I met my partner because I simply wasn’t dating smart. I finally stopped picking the same woman with different names and started choosing women based on their profiles more than their photos. I met my partner shortly after. Expand your horizons by looking at men and women who don’t fit your narrow typecast fantasy. You might meet your special someone whose profile you repeatedly skipped over for all the wrong reasons.
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